Spiritality of Struggle

A challenge dissolves the way we are and makes the boundaries more fluid, we are feeling a certain uncertainty. We are challenged by the way we look at our self and it takes us to an unknown place. So the challenge gives us the possibility to take a step forward and allow our self to roam more freely in the way we are. It involves a bit of sadness and fear. We start to wonder what is happening inside us.

There is different ways of coping. One thing for sure is that I feel lonely, that is what makes us uncomfortable but this is normal. A challenge is unique to us and the loneliness means this is a lonely path; we start to learn different type of skills if we accept the path of loneliness. We are alone in what we have to deal with. In reality, nobody can understand us. It is one of the best ways to engage with myself in a different way.

Aloneness, I choose, loneliness I don’t choose and it becomes a struggle, but it will start to push forward the start of creativity, the direct effect of loneliness is that the challenge becomes bearable; we get the strength to survive the day. It takes us to the point of who we are and this is not a bad thing.

Our main problem is that we don’t take responsibility of our life; all of us have to face issue bigger than we are use to sometimes. To find the way out, we need first to have a basic attitude of survival. We need to do everything to survive like reading, swimming, walking, sports, etc ... and then we need to be creative, we need to take the attitude that we want to learn from the challenge we’re facing, or we want to creatively find a way.

Sometimes we can’t solve all the problems. Sometimes it is ok to carry an issue. Creativity will tell us if it’s not the right time. It gives us a deep consolation. We can live with an issue without trying to solve it.

Remember that the most important thing is the attitude. It is ok to be lonely; it is ok to have an issue. We allow it to be, we accept this part of us we don’t understand. When I can’t understand myself, how can I expect someone to understand me? And then something happens. We learn to see our self differently because this issue has made us different. We have to realise that this is ok, that we can’t find a shortcut and some issue takes time to evolve.

There is nothing better in life to understand who we are, to accept the grey, the white and the black, It is ok to be the way we are. It brings us a deep sense of peace and we no longer struggle.

The experience of peace is the building block of our life. Carrying the burden is the learning process, and something new happens. We can be at peace even if we are not complete, therefore we need to have compassion for our self and for the others. Compassion is loving without understanding and it takes us beyond our problems.