Awakening to the Dream - Christine Page M.D.

The Male and the Female Energy

We have been created to be balanced. When balance is achieved we flow with life, we’re moving with ease. Since we are all both female and male we need to find balance between these 2 energies. If there is no balance, all decision we will take will be unbalanced but also our relationships, our thoughts processes, the way we formulate ideas etc ...

Very often we tend to neglect one or the other energy, and most of the time, we neglect the female because we have a wrong idea about the female psyche.

Female energy gives life, to give life, is to create. So the female energy is about endurance, creativity, intuition, compassion, care , etc ...

What do we need to take a hard decision ? we need the strength of the male and the flexibility of the female

How can we relate with somebody? With a strong love and tenderness – it means being protective and giving freedom at the same time

So the real strength is the combination of the 2 energies and being balanced means finding the balance between our male and our female energy, and then our whole body will transmit balance, we will project it outside of us.

The mantra of the week is:

Strength with gentleness

Gentleness with strength

Tuesday 27th July : Seminar on Sexuality

Sexuality is not about having sex in a “dense metal” way. Sexuality is the power of connecting, the power of openness, and the way of attachment. It is our capacity to allow somebody to come into our life. Sexuality is indeed a power, It is life giving, life creating, so the first thing to do is to acknowledge this power and accept it.

Sexuality defines us, it defines how we relate with our self and with others and this is how we understand who we are. So sexuality is our thermometer that gives us an indication of the level of consciousness we are at this point in time. Our sexuality is complex because it engages every aspect of our personality and when sexuality is in the centre of our consciousness, it becomes bliss, it becomes ecstasy because it is a channel to relate to the divine. Sexuality is generated through Passion, that tremendous energy that gives us the power to overcome the obstacles in our life. Therefore we need to start to live with passion and bring it in everything we do in life.

We are all a sexual being for others, sharing helps us to grow and to understand our self in a deeper way. Sexuality doesn’t exist without others. We need to meet and generate energy. Sexuality is about creating something new with someone else. In most of sexual acts, the fusion does not happen. For the fusion to happen, we need to allow our self to be vulnerable with our partner, we need to trust and letting go. Then, both partners will decide to fusion together in a way they come in contact with their own power.

With tenderness we can allow vulnerability to happen. Tenderness allows us to open up, it demises the resistance, it pushes us to the point where we allow our self to let go. In vulnerability, the shadow side manifests, the other sees our dark areas, and it becomes a dangerous game. But tenderness shows a deep caring for each other, it is an energy coming from the heart.

Fusion will bring to ecstasy, but ecstasy is brief and you can’t experience it the all time but the experience of ecstasy will help us to continue to work on our self, because each time, we have to start all over again. So the first step is to concentrate on tenderness, when you are tender, you love unconditionally, tenderness is an energy does goes beyond our mind, it allows us to love somebody despite his dark side. It allows us, not to forgive, but to love even more.

There is 7 stages of Love :

1-Attraction: when we are attracted to somebody, this person is mirroring something is us, we feel similarity, and we like to see our self in the other person.

2- Infatuation: it is the 2^nd step of attraction, we see that the person really likes us and we lose our mind, we want to fuse with the person, it’s like self absorption.

3- Communion: after the “fusion” stage, the couple will experience the separation, we create space between us, we become aware of our differences and we realise that despite these differences, it is ok to stay together.

4- Intimacy : we have accepted our differences, we don’t agree on everything and we take the decision to start to love unconditionally. There is a kind of pull/push negotiating period where we agree on the terms of staying together. We are committing our self into the relationship, our bodies and our psyche merge together. When true intimacy happens, we have an equal relationship.

5- Surrender & non-attachment : The dynamic becomes different, we don’t need to negotiate anymore and we feel an even deeper unconditional love. We love our partner for who he is really now at this point in time and not for whom he can become.

There are 2 stages here:

Surrender: we experience as a couple, an emotional surrender, it is as if we give up our opinions, to allow our partner to come into our life completely.

Non attachment: Unconditional love allows the other person to be free. We allow him to have his own space. It is not distance, but a space created between the 2 persons, a space where each person is totally free to be who he is. It needs a deep understanding and respect for the other person and it creates a bound on another level, it creates a spiritual bound.

6- Passion : Passion means intensity, it is that dynamic force that creates life, by respecting our individuality and connecting with each other, sexuality takes then another meaning, it gives us access to god, it moves us to a higher consciousness that creates the living existence.

7- Ecstasy: Ecstasy happens when 2 people lose themselves totally, merge into the other and experience the essence of what creation is all about. We arrive at a point of total union, total bliss.

This dynamic can’t be maintained because we can’t sustain it. What is left is the memory that will be engraved in our psyche. We feel one with the whole universe, it is a true experience of oneness.

Wed 28th July 2010 - The shaman and the addict

The shadow side of each one of us is mostly unknown, rejected or suppressed to / by us.

It is part of who we are which we forgotten.

The more our psyche is open to the light the more we can transform ourselves deeply. We have two options:

Either to ignore the shadow self or to engage it and allow it to come to the surface. We recognise it and take responsibility for it.

Both the shaman and the addicts goes for extremes and for intense experiences - for the Buzz - Energy - Power.

The shaman has great experience in this. s/he is brave - courageous. The shaman goes to the limit of his/her own power.

The addict goes to the limit of the experience.

The difference between the addict and the shaman is that the shaman is sober. The shaman doesn’t loose control and is totally rooted in the experience while the addict gives the power to the addiction.

We are all addicts in some form or another being it a substance, relationship patterns, dysfunctions, self and so on.

Shamanic practice can help us to move out of the addiction dynamic.

The addiction recognise a need whether the need is true or not, and addiction acts on it, relate to the need by intensify it to a point where the person loose control.

We are all the time suppressing the shadow self. We do not root ourselves in Reality. We prefer not to hear, not to see, and instead prefer to be rooted into out thought processes and imagination. This is called projection.

The process of projection creates a Shadow - which is the lack of clarity and lack of truth.

Jung said that the shadow self is pure gold.

It is the catalyst we need to transform. If we bring fourth what is within us, it saves us. If not it will destroy us.

Addiction is a perceived need which we habitually intensify up to a point where it takes control over us.

Our needs become addictions because we believe we have something missing or we do not believe that we are whole.

I am complete. I am whole. I will take responsibility for my life. I do not need anyone to make me happy. I do not need anyone or anything to complete who I am. I am whole within myself.

Thank you Maria Ruth for taking the notes